Let's start by looking at what self-confidence actually is. My belief is that self confidence is an understanding that you trust your own judgement and abilities, and that you value yourself and feel worthy, regardless of any imperfections or what others may believe about you. I grew up with pretty good self-confidence, I loved school, I had a great group of friends, I was average at sport but always gave it my best & I had loads of encouragement from my parents. Until, one evening at a parent/teacher interview, a
particular teacher informed me & my parents that I would never go University as I wouldn't make the grades? At that moment, I looked at that teacher and thought screw you I will show you what I can do. Maybe, it was reverse psychology, who knows? Luckily, I was a strong personality and instead of taking this statement and believing it, I decided I would go to University and show them that they were wrong. But, what if I hadn't been strong enough to say "f**k you"and carried that through my life thinking I was never good enough. I ended up spending 7 years at University and came out with 2 degrees and passed with flying colours. I had the ability to move on from that statement and you can too, but it all starts with believing in you.
The Oxford Dictionary, 2018, defines self-confidence as "a feeling of trust in one's abilities, qualities and judgement".
1) Optimism! It all lies in our positive perception of our personality, the events occurring around us and life itself. So long as we believe in the goodness that we may have in life, we are bound to enjoy it the way every man should.
Unfortunately, many of us cannot grasp optimism from a life that is muddled with miseries, morbidity, and struggles. Of course, life's pleasure would not be appreciated if it were not equaled with unhappiness. Pain cannot be felt if all we know is joy. Tears would lose its worth if we always experience happiness. Confidence would not be recognized if we do not fall flat on our face sometimes.
With optimism in life we would be able to recognize the fullness of our potentials. Everyone has an equal chance for recognition yet many of us fail to share with the limelight because we surrender even before the battle begun.
If you would want to share with what the world offers, you must be brave enough. Nothing should stop you from living your life, not even the miserable demons of low self-confidence.
Those who braved life are those who are confident enough of themselves. Sometimes, we just have to take risks so that we might discover what lies in our road. Taking risks though requires lots of faith in yourself. Without this, you would be like a warrior who has lost his armor.
2) Stay away from negativity.....
This is a time to look at who you hang out with, your inner circle of friends and family. This is a tough one, but it's time to seriously consider getting away from those individuals who put you down and shred your confidence. Stop focusing on the problems in your life and instead begin to focus on solutions and keep moving forward do not look back.
3) Do not accept failure and get rid of the monkey chatter.....
Never, ever give up, never accept failure. We all need to fail in order to learn and grow, but there is a solution to everything, so why would you throw in the towel? Make this your new MANTRA, "succeeding through great adversity is a huge confidence booster". When we fail then get back up again and finally succeed it feels amazing, these are the moments we need to cling on to when things are getting tough.
Low self confidence is often caused by the negative word tracks that you have running on a loop in your mind. If you are constantly saying you are not good enough, aren't attractive enough, aren't smart enough, aren't athletic enough and so on, you are creating a self-fulfilling prophecy. You are becoming what you preach, you need to switch or flip these negative thoughts to positive ones in order to build your self-confidence.
Remind yourself that you are a unique special and valuable individual and you deserve to be happy and confident in your life. "You are good enough, smart enough, beautiful enough, strong enough. believe it and stop letting insecurity run your life" Self-Confidence Quotes.